When it comes to wedding invitations, the words you choose are just as important as the design. How you phrase the details and the way they’re laid out can set the tone for your big day, hint at the formality of your celebration, and even give guests a taste of what to expect. If you’re feeling a bit overwhelmed by wedding invitation wording etiquette, don’t worry – we’ve got you covered! Here’s a helpful guide to nailing that perfect balance of tradition, personality, and clarity.
1. Start with the Hosts
Traditionally, wedding invitations open by acknowledging the hosts – usually the people who are contributing to the wedding costs. While this used to be mainly the bride’s parents, modern weddings often involve both families, or even just the couple as hosts.
Traditional Example:
"Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Roberts request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of their daughter, Lily Mae, to..."
Modern Example:
"Together with their families, Lily Mae Roberts and James Peter Watts invite you to celebrate their wedding day..."
If you and your partner are hosting yourselves, keep it simple:
"Lily and James invite you to join them in celebrating their love and commitment..."
Remember, there’s no “wrong” way to word this part – it’s all about what feels most comfortable and genuine to you.
2. Extend the Invitation
This is where you officially invite your guests to the wedding. A few simple words will do the trick here – it can be as formal or informal as you like:
Classic Formal Wording:
"Request the honour of your presence..."
Casual, Modern Wording:
"Would love for you to join them for..."
The phrasing here often reflects the tone of the wedding – so for a grand, traditional event, you might stick with more formal language, whereas a relaxed outdoor gathering might feel more suited to something friendly and laid-back.
3. List the Couple's Names
Your names are one of the most important parts of the invitation! In a traditional format, the bride’s name is usually listed first, followed by the groom’s. But if you prefer a different order, go for it! You can also include middle names or initials if that feels right to you.
Traditional Example:
"Lily Mae Roberts and James Peter Watts"
Modern Example:
"Lily & James"
Or even just first names for a super casual vibe:
"Lily & James are tying the knot!"
4. Add the Date, Time, and Venue
The next key piece of information is when and where your wedding will take place. This is often written out in full for a more formal look, especially on the date and time. It’s common to spell out numbers in formal invitations (e.g., "Saturday, the fifth of June, two thousand and twenty-five").
Traditional Format:
"Saturday, the fifth of June, two thousand and twenty-five
at half-past four in the afternoon
Saint Mary’s Chapel, Brighton"
Modern Format:
"Saturday, June 5, 2025, at 4:30 PM
Saint Mary’s Chapel, Brighton"
If your wedding is informal, feel free to go with something simple and straightforward, as long as the information is clear.
5. Reception Details
If your reception is in a separate location from the ceremony, it’s a good idea to mention it on the invitation or include a separate insert card.
Example:
"Reception to follow at The Ivy Ballroom, Brighton"
For a more informal touch, consider phrasing like:
"Join us for dinner, drinks, and dancing afterward!"
6. RSVP Information
Typically, RSVP cards are separate from the main invitation. However, if you’re trying to keep everything minimal or eco-friendly, you might want to include RSVP details directly on the invitation. Just make sure it’s clear and easy for guests to understand.
Formal Example:
"Please respond by the first of May"
More Casual Example:
"Let us know if you can make it! RSVP by May 1st"
You could also include a link to an online RSVP if that’s easier for you and your guests.
7. Optional Details and Personal Touches
If you have space, consider adding a personal message or meaningful quote to make your invitation extra special. Something simple, romantic, or playful could be the perfect final touch. This is also a great way to hint at your theme or style.
Example:
"All you need is love – and a little bit of cake!"
If you’re using a vellum jacket or a decorative overlay, you might print your personal message on that layer, adding depth and charm.
A Few Final Tips on Wedding Invitation Etiquette
- Spell out Full Names and Addresses: In formal invitations, it’s customary to avoid abbreviations, especially in names and addresses.
- Consider Adding a Dress Code: If you’re hoping for a specific attire, including it on your invite or details card helps prevent any last-minute confusion for your guests.
- Proofread Carefully: Double-check spelling, names, and dates – the last thing you want is a typo on your beautiful invites!
Wrapping Up
Writing your wedding invitations should be a fun and personal process. Remember, there’s no strict rulebook – just choose wording that feels right for you and your celebration. If you need help with personalising your stationery to match your wedding theme, feel free to explore our custom design services on Moonfairi Paperie.